Let's Talk About Smex...Spiritual Smex
I will be amazed if this newsletter makes it to most inboxes. While we can see every order of mayhem and misery in media, we are still paying for our puritanical origins when it comes to smex. Which is why I have to spell it that way, email filters. We see traumatizing violence on the news and in movies but god forbid we get tamely spicy without an R rating. So, why in the world am I bringing it up today? Well, I think we need to talk about the difference between liberation and spiritual smex.
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Liberating topics like sex from puritanical beliefs is an ongoing challenge that involves a dynamic approach that addresses social, cultural, educational, and political factors. It is about removing the judgment from society’s view about people’s choices. For the record, I am all for liberating the topic from judgment. People should be able to do what they want with their bodies without judgment.
I also believe in an informed decision. Having said that, I think it’s important to talk about some things we may want to consider when making the decision or discussing the topic with friends and family.
Emotional connection: For many people, smex is not just a physical act but also an emotional one. They may prefer to engage in intimacy with someone they have a deep emotional connection with, as it can enhance the overall experience and foster a sense of trust and intimacy. If you or they are not in good emotional or mental health this is an even more important consideration.
Self-Respect: Being selective about partners can be a way of practicing self-respect and self-care, especially if you have used it to fill a void in the past. This involves prioritizing one's well-being and ensuring that any encounters are positive and fulfilling. This is not to say never adventure but to ask if the reasons are grounded in healthy thinking.
Spiritual Growth: For those with spiritual beliefs, it can be seen as a deeply meaningful and sacred experience that goes beyond the physical realm. This is the most under-discussed reason as it can be confused with puritanical beliefs.
The reality is that we may choose to be selective about partners to cultivate a deeper connection and spiritual intimacy before engaging with them.
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Energy Exchange: We absorb or exchange energy with our partners. Being selective about who you or they engage in activity with can be a way of protecting your energy and maintaining a sense of balance and harmony. Intimacy is the ultimate energy exchange and some people’s energy is damaging to engage with. This is my #1 reason for sharing the perspective of spiritual smex.
Mindful Living: Practicing mindfulness and intentionality in all aspects of life, including smex, is important for some individuals. Being selective about partners can be a way of living mindfully and consciously, ensuring that each encounter is approached with awareness and intention.
This is not about being prudish or judging ourselves or others for being a smexual being. It is simply to say there is interesting ground to explore between liberation and abstinence. It is simply to say, asking ourselves these questions is just good emotional and mental health.
Happy Spring!
Cynthia
Shaman Isis
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